Khaberni - Marital happiness is a fundamental factor in family stability and the mental and physical health of individuals. Happy marital relationships enhance communication, reduce stress, and increase feelings of security and mutual support. They positively affect children's upbringing and overall life quality, making the pursuit of marital happiness essential.
Dr. Courtney Warren, a psychologist trained at Harvard University, stated that the secret to successful marital relationships does not lie in avoiding conflict, but in how the spouses handle it through mutual appreciation and respect.
In an article for CNBC, Warren said that poor communication and unwillingness to change are the main reasons many marriages fail.
Dr. Warren added that the happiest couples practice simple but effective verbal habits that can significantly enhance the success of the relationship if used daily. She identified 9 key phrases that can make a big difference in communication between spouses:
"I appreciate your effort": Warren explained that it might be tempting to focus on negatives, but expressing gratitude for the spouse's daily efforts creates a sense of mutual appreciation and strengthens the relationship.
"I admire you": Admiring your spouse and acknowledging their positive qualities deepens love and shows appreciation for what the other party does, beyond just emotional love feelings.
"Help me understand this better": Communicating to understand the other party's viewpoint enhances conflict resolution and strengthens emotional ties, especially when there are differences in perspectives.
"I am listening...": Effective listening without interrupting the other party or trying to impose one’s opinion is essential for supporting the relationship and preventing escalation in disagreements.
"I am sorry": Acknowledging mistakes and sincerely apologizing for any actions that hurt the relationship are crucial steps in resolving disputes and restoring balance between parties.
"I forgive you. Can you forgive me?": Forgiveness helps couples overcome mistakes, and studies show that couples who forgive each other enjoy longer and more stable relationships.
"I am committed to you": Reiterating commitment to the relationship enhances feelings of security and trust between the parties and reminds the other that you choose to stay with them despite challenges.
"Let's have some fun!": Humor and light jesting during tense moments relieve psychological stress and naturally enhance emotional connections in an enjoyable way.
"I love you": Verbally affirming love, with sincerity in expression, keeps the relationship active and vital, and strengthens emotional ties between the spouses.
Dr. Warren affirmed that simple daily practices like using these phrases can make a significant difference in improving the quality of the marital relationship and maintaining its stability and success over the long term.
