Khaberni - Psychology specialists clarify that over-apologizing is not just a politeness technique, but it can be an indication of a deeper psychological condition associated with how an individual handles stress and anxiety.
They emphasize that phrases like "sorry to bother you" or "sorry for writing" have become an automatic part of some people’s daily speech, even without a real mistake warranting an apology.
The experts add that this behavior may reflect what is known as a "pleasing response," a subconscious pattern where a person tries to avoid any tension or confrontation by excessively pleasing others before any problems even arise.
They explain that the nervous system in some individuals treats simple situations like silence or a change in tone of voice as potential threats, which makes the individual automatically resort to apologizing as a way to reduce tension.
Specialist Martine-Gamero believes that this pattern often forms from childhood, primarily in environments where avoiding conflict was a condition for feeling safe or socially accepted, and this is linked to what psychologists call "compliant child behavior".
Psychologist Alberto Soria indicates that this behavior has two layers: the first is apparent and relates to manners and politeness, and the second is deeper, associated with the fear of rejection or non-acceptance.
However, the problem, according to specialists, arises when apologizing becomes a daily habit, leading the individual to internally message themselves that they are "annoying," which results in psychological exhaustion and a decline in self-esteem.
Martine-Gamero insists that the solution does not lie in stopping being kind, but in restoring balance, so that apologizing does not become a psychological burden, and others' comfort does not come at the expense of personal comfort.
